Titles are earned not given....What is a friend?

I've noticed that too many people use too many words so loosely that they have loss their meaning(if any meaning  to them at all).Lets look at the term friend

• Friend: In my opinion, I think a friend is suppose to be loyal and there when you need them.I dont think someone who only calls/messages you when they need something is a friend.(vice versa) 
• As friends we should try and make each other "better", encourage each other 
• Just because someone is in your class, or work does not automatically make them a friend
• We should try to be honest with each other, trust is  essential in ANY relationship
• We should listen to each other! too many people want to be heard, be considerate about someone else's feelings for once!

Tip:Assess yourself, and ask "Would I be my own friend?" If not, then you need to look at what you need to become better at.

Courtship tips

If you are looking to date for marriage, or should I say "courtship" here are some tips I learned from church.Yes,yall church! I learn so much from there! Even if you are not "religious" I still feel like these hold true ladies!

1. Let the guy approach you! If he's not man enough to do that its not even worth going any further. He should not have to have his friend tell you that he likes you. When a man wants something, he will chase after it.
2. Let him "chase" you. Not forever, but dont make him so easy to have you.You will loose your self worth if you are seen as too "easy".
3. Know your worth ladies! "we are worth more than rubies"(Proverbs 31:10)
4. Act the way you are worth.You should not have to dress "skanky" to get a man to notice you.However, dont dress unattractively either. You shouldn't be looking all raggedy and expecting a man to talk to you. 

"No offense but..."

I hate when people start off sentences like that! They assume it gives them permission to offend you on purpose! If you say "no offense but..." that means you are highly aware about what you are going to say and you KNOW it is going to affect that person negatively. Then why bother to say it to begin with?!

1. Be considerate of other people's feelings. Think about how you would feel if that were you.
2. Be mindful and aware of that persons personality as well as yours.
3. Think before you act!

How to react to these situations if you are the victim:

1. Be honest about how you feel.Do not embarrass the person in front of a large group rather, take them aside and speak to them about how that made you feel.
2. Be patient, and learn to forgive.( This takes a lot of practice)